Random Thoughts on Movement and Living Well

Whether we are hiking or driving, we know that there is a shorter and steeper way to a summit or a longer more gradual way up to the same summit. This is not a dissertation on geometry but a reflection on goals...for example if the summit is the goal, we all might have different paths to the summit and actually we may make the inevitable additional goals along the way.  On the journey, we may have to realign or change the goals...but always keep an eye on the summit. Recently, I was having a hard time fully embracing my latest goals for my next marathon. I know full well what they are and what they should be.....I just don't especially like them but I want to love them. I am full of self-doubt about my fitness and afraid of what might happen to rain on my parade. Underlying all of this self-doubt, fear and goal-waffling, is the eating disorder. It talks and says, "See, it is not a food problem. See, eating has not helped you, in fact you are running worse. See, your body/joint...

When does something healthy become disordered?   " Our time, attention and energy are limited.The more passionate we become about any one pursuit, the less of ourselves we have to offer to everything else....You simply cannot be deeply passionate and balanced in combination. The roots of passion, prevent it.....Living with passion is, by definition, living without balance."  From the book The Passion Paradox by Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness In my opinion, the answer to that question is found in asking oneself more questions…….passion is good but there is a fine line between passionate and addicted.   Is the activity taking lots of head space and thoughts?  C an you turn thoughts about the activity off?   Is it mentally distracting from other activities people, or work?   Is it taking substantial time away from higher priorities? Is it making you a better or more pleasant person to be around….or the opposite?  Is  it life-giving or is it drai...

All or Nothing is Not Always the Right Approach In college, I took a lot of speech classes. I am an introvert and a data geek so I thought it would be helpful for career purposes. Debate was probably one of the most useful classes, other than my accounting classes, that I took during my four years at IU.  Every topic that we debated, we had to debate both sides.  At first, I thought it was going to be so difficult to argue both sides of an issue. As it turned out, I discovered that it was not challenging at all to argue both sides (and that was even before the internet). Virtually every topic had pros and cons, so debating each side was not that difficult.  That class taught me such a valuable life lesson. It taught me that nearly every topic and argument that exists has two sides. It taught me that because of that, striking common ground is invaluable. It of course required that we debate or argue based on facts, not based on opinions.  This of course was also a val...

The dangers and pitfalls of the philosophy of powering through. Oh boy, do we power through in our country. Similar to last week's post, this one to a degree is also about the dangers of flying solo and not sharing what ails you with other's.  This post arose some from what I posted last week, a homily given by my husband on Sunday, and then a post I read in a Boston Marathon Facebook group that I am in. Too often in our society, we live by the idea of sucking it up and toughing it out and the worst part is we are teaching our young people to do the same. We need to teach our young people to share their lives....there is an epidemic of unhealthy behavior in college students and they are suffering. Whether we are pushing through a physical injury or pushing through mental/emotional difficulties, we are harming ourselves.  The idea that suffering needlessly is something to be proud of is a bit twisted and in the end, it usually leads to some type of trouble or injury. We think t...

We can change our opinions, views, thoughts, actions, values, looks. We can even change our brains to think in a new way that we never thought possible. It takes work and extreme openness and a lot of times a professional if we are seeking serious brain change. I noticed two changes in myself this week that I am especially happy to notice and am honestly in awe of.  What made me notice my change were two different posts on  Facebook actually.  One was the meme that says something like, pray for all those fighting battles they don't talk about or we don't know about....something to that effect.  It made me think about how I used to view that post because I first saw it a few years ago.  My pendulum has definitely swung.  I used to have the attitude that...yeah, here is to all the people who inwardly struggle and aren't talking about it or whining or asking for help or wanting attention or pity.  I was the classic Viking that Brene' Brown describes and I...

I have been encouraged the last few weeks by a couple of different people to start a blog. So, here it is!! We shall see how this goes. I often have a lot of random thoughts that now I can share with readers without making Facebook posts that are too long☺❤In addition to that, I am... let us just say not a young person... and I have been working on myself hard the last couple of years.  I want people to learn about eating disorders and their prevalence and I hope to show the truth of these illnesses. In addition, I would like to create a page that is focused on overall mental wellness. As a nation, we are not doing very well at wellness. We are promoting "fit" in the name of thin and we still label healthy weight by an antiquated BMI chart. We need a big paradigm shift....from how we look to how we feel and we must learn the true measure of health. I have been in "recovery mode" from Anorexia for over two years now. I have had had this mental illness though for a mu...